"The List"

Something pretty interesting happened a couple of days ago with a friend of mine. We decided to exchange lists of personal traits we wanted in our future significant other. I call it “THE LIST”.


The last time I have ever made a list of what I wanted in a guy was when MySpace was popular! Wow, that brings back so many memories. Before I get nostalgic, let’s take a sneak peek on a few things I wrote on my out-dated list.

Big appetite
Understanding
Sporty
Fun-loving
Funny / Dorky [Great sense of humor]
Brown / Black / Dirty Blond hair color
Caring
TALLER than me!
Random
Good influence
Smart
Respectful <—-very important
great smile
also….and it’s a big one: GOD FEARING & LOVING.
*DOESN’T CARE ABOUT:
Girl’s physical features/appearance
Girl’s big appetite

 So on and so forth…blah blah blah.

Wow! I feel so naïve reading this and the rest of the list which I will not post much of. I began to wonder, why did I even make a list? That is when I started to understand the meaning of the word, “standards”.  But let’s question this though.

Why do we make a list of a potential boyfriend/girlfriend?

Are our standards too high? Maybe a bit too low?

It made no sense.

Then it hit me! The reason I began making a list was to make sure that the one I end up with in the future will be good to me in specific ways. And whoever came across my path that did not have at least FIVE characteristics in check are not suitable to be a potential boyfriend. I became very picky.

Who am I to say that I am no longer picky? I actually became even pickier than ever; however, I think that I became a bit more mature in my “list”.

There is no doubt in my mind that the same characteristics apply. But I don’t think I would be so cruel as to require men to have five characteristics from the list. Come to think of it, I don’t think I would want a list anymore. It sounds so demeaning AND demanding.

Think about it.

If I were to keep up with my list, then I am no greater than a guy who just wants women for their bodies. No wait! Better analogy: I would be no greater than a fan girl picking which Korean Idol (bias) she wants to be with.

A bit moronic and impossible in my opinion.

I say this as a thought comes into my head. If I were to be head over heels for someone and I came across their list, I would most likely feel very uncomfortable.

Why?

The List is like expectations that need to be met in able to even be considered as a potential partner. What if I don’t have all of the said “requirements”? What if I know for a fact that I won’t be able to obtain such specifications? I am not qualified for such a job position.

That’s what it would sound like, a job position.

“You have to be this tall to ride this ride.” <--- that’s just bull.

Another thing to consider, once a person gets a hold of your list, how would one decipher if the person is being real or just trying to live up to expectations?

If they can’t accept you for who you are, then why live up to a list that can constantly change at any given time? I know mine does.

The last time I checked, there isn't any Kronos Heaven store available anywhere (reference to the manga/show ABSOLUTE BOYFRIEND) to be able to create your perfect someone.

So how about throwing away THE LIST for an Ideal boyfriend/girlfriend/life partner, etc., and create a list on who you want to be when you meet that certain someone?

Be certain that who you are is someone that you’d actually want to date. (^.^)v