“I HAD TO GET OVER [HIM]. FOR MONTHS NOW, A STONE HAD BEEN SITTING ON MY HEART. I’D SHED A LOT OF TEARS OVER [HIM], LOST A LOT OF SLEEP, EATEN A LOT OF CAKE BATTER. SOMEHOW, I HAD TO MOVE ON. [LIFE] WOULD BE HELL IF I DIDN’T SHAKE LOOSE FROM THE GRIP HE HAD ON MY HEART. I MOST DEFINITELY DIDN’T WANT TO KEEP FEELING THIS WAY, ALONE IN A LOVE AFFAIR MEANT FOR TWO. EVEN IF HE’D FELT LIKE THE ONE. EVEN IF I’D ALWAYS THOUGHT WE’D END UP TOGETHER. EVEN IF HE STILL HAD A CHOKE CHAIN ON MY HEART.”
One of the hardest thing for anyone to ever do is let go of something that meant so much to them. I say "anyone" because I personally believe even men have hard times like this, though they have different ways of showing it.
Now, this exert above came from the book ALL I EVER WANTED by Kristan Higgins. I openly admit that I have not read this book; however, I did happen to come across this quote after Google searching for hours quotes about unrequited love. Reading the passage, it struck me deeply like someone had just opened a chest that contained such important and private information.
Why do we tend to hold on to what hurts us the most?
Why do we train our brains to think that once we let go, we would lose whatever we've had?
For a while, I have thought because it could be insecurities. It could be because we found such a happiness that once letting go, the memories will just fade away. And if that happens, that would be considered even worse. Maybe that's why I have had a hard time trying to move on when I have already been hurt. Could that be it?
Is there a possibility to hold on and let go at the same time? My answer: YES.
It is possible. It's possible but difficult at the same time. The difficulty is to try to stay as rational and logical as can be while dealing with the heartache of trying to forget. It is a very difficult task however, nothing is impossible.
With that said: If One can master being strong and still loving, then one can face life even at it's difficult moments.
Now, this exert above came from the book ALL I EVER WANTED by Kristan Higgins. I openly admit that I have not read this book; however, I did happen to come across this quote after Google searching for hours quotes about unrequited love. Reading the passage, it struck me deeply like someone had just opened a chest that contained such important and private information.
Why do we tend to hold on to what hurts us the most?
Why do we train our brains to think that once we let go, we would lose whatever we've had?
For a while, I have thought because it could be insecurities. It could be because we found such a happiness that once letting go, the memories will just fade away. And if that happens, that would be considered even worse. Maybe that's why I have had a hard time trying to move on when I have already been hurt. Could that be it?
Is there a possibility to hold on and let go at the same time? My answer: YES.
It is possible. It's possible but difficult at the same time. The difficulty is to try to stay as rational and logical as can be while dealing with the heartache of trying to forget. It is a very difficult task however, nothing is impossible.
With that said: If One can master being strong and still loving, then one can face life even at it's difficult moments.
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