F*** Netflix & CHILL!

Lately, I've been figuring things out about life. I have had a lot of things happen within the last time I've ever written anything on this blog site (i.e. FINALLY having a boyfriend and dating).

Some things I've noticed from having a relationship and seeing other relationships before me:

The main thing is that whether you are a man or woman, everyone wants to feel appreciated. They want to feel cherished, special, loved, etc. Am I wrong?

Please let me know if I am way off or just speaking out of my ass but everyone in every relationship wants to go on a date. Now, I'm not entirely sure for you men out there but I could say for most women, we want to go on dates. We want quality time with our significant other without the presence of others joining in. Alone time. Right?

Guys, a piece of advice: take your girl out.

It doesn't have to be a fancy place where you will spend $100 on a piece of bread but somewhere that you believe will be special for the both of you. Quality time doesn't mean being in bed together. It's way more than that. It also doesn't mean that if ya'll are hanging out together already, it's a date. NO!!

NETFLIX & CHILL IS NOT A F***ING DATE, GUYS!

It's 2017, that ship has sailed! Sex is not always considered part of a date or dating in general. Believe it or not, IT'S NOT!

Yes, I agree we are the most complicated species in this world but that shouldn't matter.

Some times, we (especially me) feel very unappreciated when we don't get anything special. A box of chicken wings from Hooters is not a special gift. It just feels like left overs you couldn't finish during lunch and just gave them to me. Girls love to be showered with love and devotion, even we deny it. It's within us to want those types of feelings, to see those gestures being done.

We are jealous people! A woman's worst enemy is another woman. We want what they have even when we can't have it. Unfortunately, it's true and there's no reason we have to deny this fact, ladies. When we see other girls with their significant other doing cute couple things, we yearn for the same gratification or even better. When we don't get it once in a while, it becomes nothing but just sadness and a waste. As sad as it is to confess, I hate it.

So guys, please think if your girl or significant other deserves some time with you. SPECIAL time. Because believe it or not, we do get hurt when we feel unappreciated even if you don't mean to hurt us. (AGAIN, WE'RE COMPLICATED)

Ladies, that goes for us too. Just because we say we want things or want our other half because we feel unappreciated doesn't mean they don't feel the same way.

But seriously though.....take us out on a real date!

THANKS!

Dying Before Living

I am something.

What am I?

I don't have eyes to see,

Or ears to hear,

Or legs to walk,

Or hands to clap.

I can't really be seen.

No not yet.

But I am alive.

What am I?

I am something.

What am I?

I hear something.

How do I hear?

I have ears.

What is that noise?

I have a heartbeat.

Thump-thump

Thump-thump

What am I?

I am something.

What am I?

There is something in front of me.

They're long & lumpy

I think they're called "fingers".

How do I see these "fingers"?

I have eyes.

I can see.

What am I?

I am something.

What am I?

I can't see anymore.

What happened?

I feel something happening.

I'm forming?

What is it I am forming?

A body.

A body with legs,

And arms,

And fingers,

And bones.

What am I?

I am something.

What am I?

I grew larger.

I am bigger than when I started.

I have full fingers,

And legs,

And a heart, all of my own.

I can kick.

I can move.

What am I?

I am something.

What am I?

I feel tight.

I want to get out.

I see the light,

The opening to new life.

I feel it!

I am ready!

I am alive!

I am coming!

I am --

What is this?

It hurts!

It is metal,

And sharp,

And cold.

What's happening?

I cry out!

But I can't be heard!

What is this?

Who is this?

He grabs me by my soft shoulders,

He punctures my newly formed head.

It hurts!

Why is he doing this?

I can't see the light.

I can't move.

I can't--

~*~*~*~*

I was something.

No.

I was someone.

I had a life.

But it was gone.

Gone before I could even live it.

I was alive.

But I was killed.

Who was I?

Why did I have to go?

What did I do that was so wrong to kill me?

I was just a baby.

I was just a little child.

A child that was never born.

I could have been something.

I could have been someone.

I could have made a difference in the world.

I could have helped you out with your problems.

I could have lent an extra hand.

I could have been...

I could have been...

I could have been born

But instead I'm dead.

Now, I'll never live again.

I will never see the light of life.

I will never be welcomed to the arms of

A loving mother.

I will never make friends.

I will never be who I was supposed to be.

I will never be me.

I am sorry for ruining your life because of my selfish choice to live.

(I am Something, What am I?)

New Blog!!!

Began writing and developing a new blog on top of the one I already have. Check it out if you'd like!

(click on the image to bring directly to site)

as the other one is all about life in general and blogs are about whatever I can find and talk about, secrets to unravel basically, this is all about the heart. Matters of the heart.

Wishes, dreams, what makes us hurt about men/women.

I might think of extending this blog and write about what some men and women want in relationships. Anything dealing with the heart the most because I've figured that I am more better in writing about them the most. Though they are always repetitive just like life, it's always different lessons being learned.

So please check it out and don't be afraid to send me confessions that you can't seem to let go or let others know about. It'll always be considered "anonymous" unless given permission otherwise.

Thanks guys!

Pornography: Healthy or Not?

A very interesting subject of conversation took place at home not too long ago. If I may be completely personal in this post, it seemed to have sparked an interest of blogging about it. As my friends and I talk about the one thing that embarrasses many, I began to question:

Could pornography be healthy in some way or not?

For some, they would say that watching porn is never healthy, it is never alright, and it ruins relationships. Others, in the opposite side of the spectrum, would believe that it is alright to be able to watch and probably enjoy the scenes, to get some tips on how to pleasure their significant other, etc.

Both sides have very valuable points.

Personally, I do believe it is alright to some extent, meaning that there is a limit. Viewing porn is truly addicting whenever something about it catches our attentions, whether it be the size of an individuals private parts or the positions that they use. The brain sends signals down to the rest of the body which triggers sensual reactions towards what one sees. I believe that is perfectly normal. Porn is supposed to catch people's attention because it's not an everyday thing one would see out in public (depending on where one is in the world). Though porn would be mostly online and on television, it is also in books and if one loves to read, it can be addicting.  It is also the reason why Cinemax plays their adult programs in the late hours of the night and books are labeled "adult" and could be found in a different area of the book stores.

Though this may be very controversial, what makes pornography healthy is how it stimulates the brain and also ones' senses. Basically, it proves one isn't a robot. One could find humor in the way things are laid out when it comes to sex scenes of a movie, adult program, or a book. Sexually, it can give ideas to one's relationships to keep things interesting.

What could be unhealthy with the idea of pornography is the results of an unsatisfactory sexual relationship which would result in cheating or addiction to pornography, isolation, etc... Men or women could create this fantasy in their head that once it tries to take place in reality, it is not how they would want it and it creates somewhat of a tension. It can take time away from what really matters in a relationship or in life in general.

There is no doubt that many could come up with more things that are wrong and okay with the idea of pornography. I am not saying that it is absolutely alright to disregard everything else and get yourself addicted to it. I'm suggesting that if one chooses to view or read a pornographic movie or book, take caution and set a limit towards yourself.

This is all based on self control. It is healthy in some ways but not all the time.

Just don't take it too far.

Changing through Attraction

Why do girls use so much make-up to attract guys?
It was very interesting to have a guy ask me such a question. Why do we tend to wear more make up?
Actually , better question: Why do we change our image to be liked by the opposite (or same) sex?

Honestly, I had to step back and think about it. Though I am not one to really wear make-up to impress someone (or wear make-up in general), I do, however, like to dress up a little more and feel cute to be able to get their attention.

Maybe it's because we want to appeal to the obvious senses before really showing our personalities. It's like displaying the best candies before having them actually taste it (Okay...that sounds a bit wrong but hopefully you, readers, get my jiff).

But I go for personalities more than the physical stuff. Why can't they just be themselves?
Though that may be true, we still tend to look at the physical features before we really get into the personality of a person. It's just who we are. That's why it's called physical attraction. There's nothing wrong with that. It's pretty natural. Besides, it's not like we are immediately adored by just personalities alone. Even someone who chats with another individual online will fully admit that he/she is attracted due to something physically appealing before they could say that it was due to their personalities.

However, I wonder until what point do we tend to change our personalities when we tend to feel attracted to someone?

It's possible to have slightly altered or completely changed our personalities because we like someone. We begin to adapt to what they like or try to convince them to like what we find amusing and such. What happens when the significant target of interest doesn't feel the same way? For some, we still try. This is where I must say we either change or they do.

I've heard many say
"Let them chase you."
"Boys love Bitches" (excuse me for the language)
"Girls go for the Bad Boy types"
and so much more...

It's all just a confusing mess.

Is it possible to lose ourselves just to get a person? I believe so.

*sigh*

I believe it's suggestible to try to stay true to ourselves. Though we may truly like or love the other individual so much, let's not lose who we are in the process.
It's nice to be able to take better care of ourselves, but it's not when we begin to forget who we are.

Absolute Blankness

You're unsure of your next actions.

You feel lost.

At times you just have no idea if the feeling of uncertainty is caused by fear, confusion, insecurities...

You just feel...blank.

Respect! Give It To Me!

It seems like the word respect is lacking it's meaning in today's society.

When one thinks of respect, it's more of gaining respect from others than giving respect in return. Why is that?