"I have Needs!"

We all have it.

There's no denying it.

Just accept it.

In some point in time, we all develop "needs" (needs as reference to sexual urges). Once we develop the needs, we usually cave into having sex or masturbation.
And sometimes it just cannot be helped. It is just natural for our bodies to crave the desire to be touched. We are human after all. I will honestly admit that I am not sexually active and am very much a proud virgin; however, I do know things thanks to environment and friends. In actuality, I, myself, have sexual urges yet I do not usually act upon it. It takes a great amount of will power to get the mind off of sex. With that said, though I lack the knowledge, I would like to give out possible pointers on trying to overcome these needs.

1. Exercising.
• Believing that this is all in the mind, I find it best to occupy the mind AND body with something that could help one's health. The more the mind is occupied with wanting to have a more fit and toned body, it could be possible that the less the urges tend to be.
2. Fill up your planner/calendar.
• If you don't have a planner or a calendar, I suggest you get one or fill your phone with tasks to do. Grab some friends and plan on having a trip or a hangout somewhere. Plan on having events like going to an amusement park or getting your car fixed to ease your mind about wanting to have sex.
3. Read or Write.
• Usually, reading a book is always a great way to distract the mind. However, if you have a vivid imagination and can't seem to get over the sexual urges, I highly suggest writing a story about it. Personally, I do this whenever I have needs. I gather all my thoughts about sex and create a private story about what I would like to do if I were to have sex with someone. Let your mind run wild when it comes to this. It's all creativity. Instead of doing it physically, write about it. Let the characters in your story do what you felt like doing. Eventually, the urges dies down after writing so much. (It tends to work for me...)
4. Make a Promise.
• Maybe for some, this might sound like an idiotic idea but it just might work out. Make a promise to yourself that you would save yourself or at least do things safely and with caution.
5. Prayer.
• If you are considered religious of some sort, prayer is a great way to help through the urges. Being a believer of Christ, I try to read the Bible and get my mind out of the gutter. Prayer is strong and helps out when we seek for answers. Seeking God and focusing on Him helps out a great deal. At least then, not only are we getting our minds off of sex (though it can come back because we are not perfect) but we are also strengthening ourselves in Christ.
6. Seek help.
• Along with everything else, a huge suggestion would be to ask for help. Talk to a trusted friend, parent, counselor, pastor, etc. Most likely they will understand where you're coming from and would make some other suggestions. It may feel embarrassing but it's really not. Make sure that the person you go to does not have double intentions. It would only make the matters worse.

Though these were more of a personal opinion, there are many other ways to get over sexual needs. There is nothing wrong with wanting more information about such things.

If interested,  below are a few websites that talk about avoiding sexual urges:

• http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Thinking-About-Sex
• http://antisex.info/en/antilust.htm
• http://www.dadabhagwan.org/scientific-solutions/spiritual-science/practice-celibacy-with-scientific-understanding/how-to-control-sexual-desire/
• http://www.livestrong.com/article/60852-lower-sex-drive/ (food)

and there are much more on Google!

In the end, it's still all our choice on whether we want to suppress the tension of sexual urges within us or not. Whatever the choice is, just be safe and be cautious!