Cheating is probably the most hurtful thing anyone in a relationship fears to come across besides death of the significant other. It proves dishonesty and unfaithfulness. It alters one's views about love, trust, and other factors that could drastically change a person for the worse (or depending on how strong one is, for the better).
Before I go on, I will admit that I personally have not gone through a cheating phase of a relationship for I have never actually gotten into a relationship that is beyond friendship. However, I would like to go ahead and state my opinions about it, though I lack the experience.
As mentioned before, cheating is probably considered the second worse occurrence besides death of a love one. If searching online about cheating, there are many images and quotes that say that "relationships are not tests so why cheat?" Looking it that way, it is a very true statement/question.
If one is to cheat, why agree to be in a relationship in the first place?
Why continue to lead someone on if one is unhappy?
Why drag on the lie knowing that though it might not be revealed now, it will be revealed eventually?
Why hurt someone you once truly cared about?
These questions are not just of my own but of others who have experienced this. So I question. It is something that must be answered within themselves.
No one likes to be cheated--whether it be in a job, test, or relationship.
So here is my advice for those who cheat:
Stop wasting other people's times. The reason I say this is for your own good as well. Unless BOTH parties are okay with an "open" relationship, then don't go any further than the one you are already with. If one is unhappy, then leave. Be truthful and leave. No one is obligated to stay unless one is married. Marriage is a whole different story. If one is married yet has committed adulterous actions with another individual, work it out or get out; however, make it legal and clean. Consider the consequences. But also, consider your happiness. Don't cheat. Just leave, with a perfectly good explanation. It is best not to go through life thinking and believing that one is capable to have true happiness from having many lovers all at once. Besides, aren't you tired of lying?
"Be careful in the labyrinth of lies for even the most talented 'navigators' can't find their way out."
And here is my advice for those who were cheated on:
Similar to my advice for cheaters, I highly suggest leaving. Leaving is the best option once one has totally had it. No one deserves to be hurt and played on like this. If an individual has been cheated on, it is best to grow from it and move on. Separate oneself from the problem. If not, it will continue to linger for who knows how long. It might be hard considering that one could be in love with a cheater, but one must consider their happiness as well. Is it really worth sacrificing one's well being and dignity to be fooled by another? Eventually, things will be better. But it's best to keep a distance in time for one to heal.
Think of it this way:
would you rather leave being hurt but have the possibility and higher chance to forgive or stay and let the anger feed of you slowly until you truly hate the person?
Let your heart heal.
Good Luck!
No comments:
Post a Comment